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Wings and chain ??

What I believe or you think does not matter to both of us. We are humans specially designed to be selfish and self-centered. Today is your birthday ?? fine, happy birthday, Your dog died ?? fine, who cares, you are not feeling good ?? fine, cheer up….
These are common reactions that we receive daily from random people that we had assumed as close friends or relatives. Although These lines are from my perspectives, I want it to reach many but the fact I am not considering is no one cares. That’s what human nature is, attention becomes the only goal.

The society is designed to make us struggle with every phase of life which we have to deal with from early childhood to old age. The struggle is real, be it for love and affection during childhood or attention and love during old age. The hardest but important struggle will always be during adulthood where we fight for almost everything of which struggle of existence being the most important of them all. Society is a chain designed to hold us back but it’s up to us to develop wings and fly in the process. The ability to go against the odds and act opposite to long-established social values is the first step towards freedom and self-satisfaction.
What we don’t realize is a knot can be tied in various ways. The way a work has been completed does not mean it should be done in the same way or with the same principles in the coming days as well. Everyone’s way of thinking and completing a certain task is different from others. Also, the world is changing. Discoveries have become part of life. The established truth of the past is proven wrong and a new truth is being established daily. Everything needs an update and so do human beings.
And, the only way to achieve constant upgrade is to keep exploring what’s already out there. The only way to keep surging forward is to fly with wings of hope and freedom rather than tied in chains of despair and isolation.

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Realization and acceptance.

After 5 years of childhood (aged 5), 11 years of schooling(aged 16), 2 years of college(aged 18), almost 4 years of nothing but random jobs and nothing more, and almost 1+ years of studying+ another job(aged 23 now ), things might be going good and all those hassles, unrest, the blurry future, the constant dilemma of what next ??, am i really on the right track ??, it feels like all these questions and confusions are slowly being answered and cleared at the same time. Yes, it’s too early to consider that i have made it or i am clear about the future but after working on 3 or 4 different fields, i realized that one door opens when another closes and that’s how life works.

So,panicking when things are not going right and being carefree when everything looks fine will never solve any problem. A little activeness and precaution during good times and more hard work, dedication and control over problematic situation during tough times makes all the difference for a successful living. I consider ” realization ” to be one of the most important aspect of human life. Recently, i am reading a book called ” the subtle art of not giving a Fu*k ” which explains about controlling our human behavior as we tent to give too much importance to something that is not worth it. We are constantly in search of perfect condition’s for everything which obviously don’t exist. We are always told that happiness is the ultimate goal above all but what we don’t realize that that’s never the case everyday. We fail, we have to face sadness at some point of our lives but we never realize that the very existence of sadness makes us realize the importance of happiness.

Someone said something and we go back to same moments more than once just thinking why did not i say this or that , it would have been better if i would have acted this way or that way, i would have got him/her is i had said this and many more goes through our mind endlessly and of course everything is bullshit. “ the desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience and, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.” Simply, The desire to make everything perfect( which is impossible) puts us in a series of regretful situation and all the hard work done for it’s perfection would be in vain. However, instead of regret , we can accept how things are and have a positive insight on at least we tried and made it half good( could have been worse ) which can make a lot of difference in creating positive outlook on life as a whole. We don’t need big change to change our life for good. All those small positive changes that we make are stepping stone.Realization and acceptance being the first !!

Antarman ko yatra by Jagdish Ghimire. what is life ??

Before writing anything about the book, I just want to make a clear statement that it’s neither a review nor a summary. It’s just a recommendation and things that are mostly highlighted in the book. The book has been written by Nepali writer Mr Jagdish Ghimire during his fight with Myeloma ( a type of incurable cancer that occurs in bone marrow). I believe that everyone reflects their life choices and it’s effects on the death bed and during bad times. The book includes his life story from birth to fight against cancer days where he had to face many challenges and little opportunities while trying to be a critical writer during not so favourable conditions because the public’s negative comments were always suppressed back in those days. He was an intellectual author who has attempted to visualize life through his own life stories.

  • Health is not only wealth but is life itself: The most important thing to consider is how certain decision is going to affect our health in the long run. A life without health is not life but a hell before death. The way he tackled cancer and his limited life after cancer where every activity was limited makes me realize how important it is to enjoy life during youth where health is not an issue.
  • Being good is not enough but showing well is also necessary: It might appear as being critical but it’s a fact. The way he has described his contribution to establishing a health centre, co-operatives, drinking water supplies to local underdeveloped families in a total of approx. 27 pages and a lot between other pages shows it’s really important and necessary to do so.
  • leaving something good to the world gives a little happiness and justifies our existence in this world when death arrives: We will be remembered as a good parent, children, friends, relatives, or a human being if we can make some of the people to think so. The feeling of completeness and happiness after being able to at least help someone live a better life beats every other feeling.
  • Nobody understands life and it’s useless to try: the one who claims to do so is either lying or is mentally not healthy or a Psycho.
  • A peaceful death is all we desire but medical advancement has made it impossible.
  • Love of power destroys everything while the power of love creates and unites everyone.
  • The enemy of a person is a person: It’s not that hard to have a positive outlook and do good towards society but what’s make it hard is the unnecessary hurdles created by negative people who are at a disadvantage because they feel that their existence is at risk when good start happening in society.
  • Corruption is the bitter truth followed by spooning by greedy bastards: There always exists a certain level of corruption and spooning in every corner of the earth which does not require any examples.
  • Family is important and so are friends and well-wisher: The only way to have them is to be a better family man and a better friend.
  • There would be no requirement of any god-figure if humans were not evil: God exists to show that there is a greater power then evil.
  • None can be controlled, not even our children: Every individual is different so are children. Expecting them to be just like their parents is useless and inappropriate.
  • There is life because of death: There’s nothing to be afraid of death but must be thankful because the ultimate ending is death which puts an end to our miserable life.

Well, That’s it !!

Quarantine experiences and learning

The world is going through COVID-19 pandemic which is having a adverse effect on everyone. Most of the countries are locked down in an attempt to restrict the spread area. The rapid increasing in numbers has restricted most of the lives inside homes in self isolation. These quarantine days made me reflect on so many things about life and many more as theres enough time to lay on bed and just wonder how spider-man became a spider-man just by a bite of a spider and can i be too ?? ( just kidding ).

  • After 20 days of complete lock down, i noticed that everything
  • can wait !! i mean i am in a profession where i have to work directly with customers and most of them are impatient and demanding sometimes. I know everything is lock down and nothing is functioning but everything can wait and there’s nothing to worry about.
  • We are full of excuses : when everything was normal, i always had an excuse of not having enough time for exercise, reading a book, waking up early,reading books as i always thought that i had a rough day and tired as hell. But , even today where i have alot of time to do those activities i end of wondering of how to be a spider-man. So, my point is we are full of excuses and not wanting to do overpowers the ability of completing the task. well, that’s a human nature i guess.
  • There’s nothing as extrovert or introvert: The people who thought that they were introvert are dying to go out and the one’s who call themselves extrovert are adjusting with staying home. So, what’s the fuss about all these self proclaimed and self decleared trait.
  • Physical vs virtual : These days, most of us are dependent on social medias for self entertainment. But , the concern is upto when ?? one day or the other, we are going to realize the importance of our family and friends. Of course we are in touch with everyone but is it equal to physically being with each other ??
  • Life goes on : I am obsessed with junk foods and used to take them regularly but now with it hard to have my hands on, i have realised that i am not craving for them like i used to before. So, we can adjust to whatever comes our way. It’s all about what we want and how much we want.
  • Lastly, these are all my personal experiences and are from my personal point of view. I respect the difference in opinion which anyone can offer. Whatever happens,the world keeps moving and all these commotions will come to an end. These kind of pandemic has been occurring frequently through the years which were controlled and the human race has been surviving and has come back stronger. Therefore, it’s just a phase where we all have to be together by not being together physically.

Point of view

We are carefree,
We don’t have any obligations to fulfill,
No any criteria to meet,
We are bound by no rules to follow,
We never know what’s going on and what’s going to happen,
What we know is what we are doing and how to enjoy,
We want to play, meet friends, make memories and so on,
We have heard that the world is at a great risk but we really don’t care,
Because we are children and we are not gonna get this happy time again,

The world is at risk and we don’t know how to stay care free,
We have so many obligations’ to fulfill,
Bound by so many rules,
The fact is we know it’s dangerous and needs to be taken care of ,
But don’t really know how ??
We know it’s better to stay home than to be exposed,
But, what’s the point in doing so ??
After all, we are here for a fixed time and will leave the earth sooner or later !!
We are the adults and one responsible for every one and every other !!

The danger is we are at the horizon of our time here,
We hardly can distinguish between the past,present or the future.
The weaken lion is more vulnerable to enemies than a strong wolf,
Is what we believe and hear,
The fact is we are elders and desire to be have a peaceful death than to be tortured and have a painful one !!


Stay safe everyone !!
Mankind will come back stronger !!

What it’s like to be an average ??

Every day, we face a situation where we feel like we can do it but at the same time, we are in confusion of can we really do it ?? that my friend is called “ being an average “.


When a certain topic rises, we can start a conversation but we can not continue with the conversation because we know nothing in depth but just a little knowledge. We are not considered as intellectual but also not dull and that’s why we are never in the limelight. We just dissappear !!


I am have been experiencing the same on my life as well. Sometimes, I just feel like I am good but not enough. I feel like I am overshadowed by all the better person who are more then average in their field of expertise. Being average is hard. Positive or negative, publicity is publicity but being average is in the middle where we get none. We average are the neutral points about whom nobody talks about.


Being average makes it tough in selecting life goals as well. We can never decide what we are good at because we feel the same about everything because we know that we are just average on everything and never above it. Also, being average in many things scatter our energy to different topics so we can never master and get perfection on any one of them. We know so many things but only a little of it. The below average people don’t consider us good and the above average people don’t count us. We are squeezed between the best and the not so good.


But, life is a lesson which we keep getting on. There’s always room for improvement. Being average urges us to keep improving so that we can be the best some day !!

Getting up at 5 and waking up at 7 ??


What’s it like to open your eyes at 5am early but to wake your body at 7 ??


First of all, I have experienced the same difficulty since early days. I usually get enough sleep of 6-7 hours daily and my eyes open at around 5 to 5 : 30 am. I spent around 1.5 hrs idly just by lying on the bed. I don’t know if it’s a good thing or a bad one because I see both negative and positive outcome of it.
The time period between waking up and getting up is spent mostly thinking about past and coming future. The thoughts that arises, the counter-thought that is just opposite to the original thought and again another counter thought from different perspective.. These things keep occurring but with no actual reason. The dilemma on how life is and how life should be, the comparison on what had been done and what should have been done, the daily race to survival, the daily routine to be followed, what should have been done yesterday and what has been done yesterday, what was not done yesterday and what should be done today, the priorities, reflection on self…………. These all thought occur among many others. But before waking up, WHATEVER HAPPENS, IT HAPPENS FOR A REASON & I will give my best to the very end and will try to be a problem solver rather than a creator becomes the ultimate and closing thought to start the day !!


Another will be the use of phone which is the most disturbing habit. I know the cellphone’s not gonna help but who cares, we are human’s and we have a right to choose what we desire. Checking horoscope ( which is I believe is true only when it’s prediction is a good day, of course ) , mails( sometime ) , whatsapp ( each time with no reason at all ), and finally to youtube which is the most disturbing of all. I know it’s a good one sometimes but after youtube, there’s no turning back because whatever I start watching, if it’s intriguing enough, I am gonna finish it. I wonder most of the time that what if I had the same determination of completing after starting in real life goals as well like the qualification that I am working on, the job I am performing , the book that I have just started to read, the health that I always wanted to be at it’s right place. But, I always get over everything with an excuse because I have already prepared it. I DON’T HAVE TIME FOR ALL !! and yes it works all the time and on everything !!

Everything has a REASON and everyone has a MOTIVE

The cat that roams around rubbing it’s whole body around your legs.It does so because he wants to cuddle or wants you to consider him as your own family. The dog that waives his tail after seeing you is because he wants to be your best friend and a loyal one. The sun hides and fog appears to signal the starting of winter. The sun rises early and sets late shows the existence of summer.


Whatever happens, happens for a reason. The reason can be anything. The world itself exists for a reason. Whatever we are doing , We are doing it for a reason. You talk to someone or someone’s talks to you , it all happens for a reason. The motive of a person has been described by other words as well. Selfish, dependent and what not?? all it takes is a little interpretation of the situation.


We become close to someone with an expectation that they will be of help in some part of our life. We help others with a hope of return favor from another person. Why do we work?? Why do we wake up early ?? Why do we eat ?? Why do we sleep at night and work at day?? Every question has an answer and a reason for its existence along with a motive to clearly define the answer.
If we are in doubt of anything and we can’t answer the question why , then definitely something is not right. If why is the question then what is the answer ?? if what is the question then why, ‘what’ is the question ??. we can put everthing in dilemma with a simple why to absolutely anything.

I am writing this because I have a reason. The reason of getting everything out of my head. The more I write, the more I get a clearer picture to what I am in confusion right now. Whatever happens, happens for a reason. Whatever someone does, He/She does it for a motive.


Understand that it’s okay to not understand everything because you can never guess correctly all the time that what is happening for what reason and why is he/she doing it and for what motive ?? Just enjoy and accept how things are and also how things will appear in the days to come because nothing is in your hand. Just accept and move on with out any expectations !!